Monday, June 13, 2016

There’s Power in the Facebook Block

As Facebook has evolved, it seems it's more useful for the groups you can join than interacting with your high school classmates and distant family members. There are groups for writers, groups for bloggers, groups for your neighborhood... The list goes on.



As anyone who has ever spent time in online forums knows, things can get ugly. There's always that one person who never seemed to have been taught how to act like a decent human being.



So you find yourself doing this...



And then you ask yourself why...because:



But Facebook has a feature that is all kinds of amazing. It's called this:



In the group I'm most active in, a few people seem to be perpetually cranky. They take that crankiness out on everyone else. They were never taught this basic lesson everyone in the South learns from a young age:



I've only blocked a few people...usually after seeing a pattern of behavior. Most of the time it's that they seem to always be looking for a fight and do you know what?



Most often when I've blocked someone, it's more of an effort to keep them from seeing my posts than vice versa. If they can't see me, they can't reply with their nasty rudeness. Clicking on "Block" is very liberating. You immediatley feel as though someone has been completely removed from your life.



If only we could block toxic people in real life. One minute they're there, the next they vanish.



Have you ever blocked someone on Facebook?

50 comments:

  1. I can think of a few people who violate Joel's rods.
    The other admins work hard to keep the IWSG Facebook group free of cranky poplar.

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    1. I'm sure that's a challenge! Seems no matter what your group, there are always people who try to bring everyone down.

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  2. Yes, I have. There are some people who I don't want anywhere near me FB accounts for various reasons. I don't have time for unnecessary negativity.

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    1. Absolutely! It brings all of us down.

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  3. oh yes, I've whittled my list quite a bit and it makes life so much better

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    1. I rarely remove friends...mostly I just turn off their notifications. By the end of election season, I may not have anyone left!

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  4. I had no idea I could do that. Thanks so much for sharing this.

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    1. Yes, just choose the drop-down box next to the right of their page at the top and block is one of the options.

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  5. No, I never knew how to block anyone and still don't. I seem to think some people have blocked me, however. The add friend button doesn't appear on some people's pages. Does this mean they've blocked you?

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    1. No, if they've blocked you, you wouldn't be able to see their page at all. I wonder if that's because you're already friends? Or maybe they somehow have blocked letting people add them for some reason...

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  6. I haven't blocked anyone (yet), but then I don't participate in the groups I've joined as much as I should. I like Joel's rule!

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    1. Yeah, I agree...way too much negativity in the world.

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  7. I haven't yet, but I've blocked quite a few people on Twitter who offer to sell followers.

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    1. Ugh, I get those people following me all the time over there. I just ignore them and let them follow. I figure they'll unfollow when they see I'm not following back!

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  8. As much as I scan Facebook feed, I don't really use it much. There are many trolls. My big thing is reporting hate speech et al. Today in my feed I was disappointed to see where a country music performer was spouting politics. This is one area I grow tired of people but don't block them. It's important to see what people think but I can't think of a worse topic to discuss on Facebook.

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    1. Yeah, someone was posting wisdom from Steven Seagal, of all people.

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  9. There's a whole bunch of my relatives who post hateful, bigoted crap that makes me ashamed to share a bloodline with them. I am still their friend (because how can you unfriend your aunt?) but I unfollowed their posts.

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    1. Unfortunately, the Presidential election is showing us that side of too many of the people we know...

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  10. I've not blocked anyone on Facebook. Most of my posts are public anyway because I share things like blog posts and I want the public to be able to see those. I have groups of people who friended me, but I put them in a group that is the same as the public view so that they know I'm a friend, but they get to see exactly what the public sees. I save the friendships for people I've actually met in person or know them from writing, blogging, etc.

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  11. I'm not on Facebook, but I would so love to have a "Blocked" feature for real life.

    There's a time and place to vent, to talk about problems, etc - life is not all roses and unicorns - but I do try to live by that Osteen quote and keep my crankiness to myself. :)

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  12. I imagine more than half of the rude people wouldn't dare act that way in public. I'm surprised there's not a group just for cranky or mean folks, they'd have a real challenge then!
    I've never blocked anyone but I did unfriend someone who just wanted to sell cheap jewelry. Love the Osteen quote!

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  13. I can block in a New York second. You go girl. Arguing with these toxic people is a waste of time. They don't even see themselves as toxic, they think you are because you don't agree with them. Good grief.

    I linked you to Awww Mondays because of that adorable kitty.

    Have a terrific day. We're on our last leg home this morning. ☺

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  14. Yes...I have used it...I don't like meanies!

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  15. I haven't joined Facebook yet, but I imagine blocking rude people would be very satisfying. That clip of Kermit made me laugh.

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  16. No, never. I used Facebook for a year and left due to boredom. People telling me they just brushed their teeth, etc. As your illustration above says, I've no time for that.

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  17. I try to avoid those toxic folks- and I do not spend much time on Facepuke I find it really is A WASTE OF MY TIME. I'd rather be out with people in person.

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  18. Hahahaha yep. But I don't do The Facebook for this very reason.
    I have utilized the iPhone block too! It's amazing!

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  19. Hi Stephanie,
    No, never had to block anyone on Facebook but there are a couple of fight pickers. I can usually make them look small and I always win he crowd and they do the counter punching for me while I sit back and watch in the comfort of my armchair, amused and drinking coffee.

    There are one or two such people I know in real life and sometimes I would dearly wish to block them with a left hook or an upper cut . . . lol

    Nice post and loved it . . . :)

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  20. So crazy how many people think they can be rude and just get away with it...online and in life.

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  21. Yes, I've blocked people on Facebook and on my telephone and on email. A few days ago, I deactivated my Facebook page. It's still there. I can turn it on if I want it. But I need a Facebook break.

    Love,
    Janie

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  22. I don't have a ton of people as "friends" on Facebook so I haven't blocked anyone. I have had a former bully want to be "friends" with me and I just declined. I don't care if they take offence and if someone is nasty I probably would just get rid of them. I can see to block if they are family or it would cause too much of an uproar then, blocking works well

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  23. I cannot stand these people who are dying to perpetuate a Facebook argument. I don't usually block them, but I do hide their posts! ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  24. I've never blocked anyone on Face Book, but I don't have that many friends because I don't accept a lot of requests.

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  25. Hey Stephanie,
    I have only ever blocked someone who was wanting to be my friend and they were quite forward. I love your style of blogging here, very different and entertaining.-Jennifer

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  26. I've blocked two people since I've been on FB. The first person was blocked for constantly arguing with me and with my friends who posted a comment, and the other because she was uncomfortably needy.

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  27. Blocking is fantastic! I mostly use it for exes. Haha! But that seriously sucks you have to do it because some peeps can't knock their crap off.

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  28. Only one person have I blocked, and he originated from a friends thread. He was going off the deep end on some nonsensical stuff and was yelling at everyone (alledgely wasn't yelling but had poor eyesight). Anywho, I called him out on his stuff and eventually I had to IM my friend to let her know what was going on so that she didn't get upset with me.

    He got blocked because he went to my wall and made a nasty comment on a post, which he proceeded to hide from me. I found it when I clicked on the "hide" link. After reading it, I blocked him.

    Now I just block spammers who attempt to friend me from following me.

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  29. I am not on Facebook, but I have blocked certain folks from sending me email. On my blog, I have been fortunate to not have to deal with a lot of spam or internet trolls (none). But there are a few sites I follow where I wish the trolls were blocked from commenting. It's so annoying.

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  30. I've never blocked someone on FB, but then again, I'm not super active there. I use it to keep track of family and friends since I suck at calling people and catching up with them.

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  31. I've blocked one person, but I'm not on there often enough to want to block more people.

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  32. I don't think I've ever blocked anyone on FB or Twitter, but there are a few people I'd like to block in real life.

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  33. I'm pretty liberal with the block button on all my social media. Like you said above: Ain't Nobody Got Time for That.

    @mirymom1 from
    Balancing Act

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  34. The tendency of Facebook friends who lose their kindness chip is why I usually just post cat pics.(lol) We both stay out of trouble that way. Great topic! Hugs...RO

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  35. Hah, I'm totally posting about facebook and this tomorrow. Great minds think alike? :) Anyhow, yep, totally done this. I just hate it when I get people who are family or post things that I need to see from time to time, but then occasionally post horrible, hateful things. I've wanted to block them SO bad, but because I need some of their posts I can't. So frustrating!

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  36. I've never had to block anyone, but I don't use it very much, either. There have been a few times, though, when I wish I had that real-life block button.
    Kermit typing like a spazz made me laugh.

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  37. I've never blocked someone on FB. I just unfriend. I don't do much on FB but read articles from publications I've liked. And follow my SIL. No groups.

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  38. I gave up on FB years ago. However, in the last few months I've had a couple of friends tell me that it's different now because of the groups. As for your question, I'd block someone in a heartbeat without a second thought if they were being rude and hateful. I mean I left the whole FB system because of such behavior, so I'm already experienced in setting boundaries. ;-)

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  39. Honestly, I rarely spend any time on social media. Angry idiots are too prevalent and not worth my time. I wish you well!

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  40. Wait. Wait. Wait.

    I knew you could block people that were your friends or that you don't want to be friends with, but how did I completely miss the fact that you can block someone in a group?? This is life-changing!

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