Wednesday, June 29, 2016

How NOT to Sell Crap on Facebook

A few weeks ago, a girl from high school I've never spoken to before added me to her group. She didn't ask first, so I assume I was one of hundreds of people she added. Her product was part of one of those pyramid scheme things that pretend not to be...like Pampered Chef and Mary Kay.



So this spammy woman immediately started posting junk to her page. Videos of her talking about the product, ads for the product, invitations to buy the product. There were probably about five posts a day.



And then I made the biggest mistake. I bought something from her. I'd bought the product before from other people and she was the only one I could find who was selling it. She posted one of these and tagged me, so everyone I knew could see I'd bought this crap:



No biggie. I'd ordered from friends on Facebook before and gotten the same thing. Had nothing happened after that, life would have been fine. But soon after, I got a personal email asking me to check out her other items and buy something.



I ignored that and the next day, she posted another video. Another notification came with it. She messaged me and told me to check those out. I clicked over, intending to do this:



But, whoops, along the way I saw this and decided to click on it:


Problem solved. But I couldn't help but think that if she'd just not been so obnoxious, I would still be following her. She could have posted the occasional special and I would have been fine. But the constant messages were just too much.



Have you ever had a friend who seemed to always be trying to make money off of you?

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  1. No one likes the hard sell. My wife gets bugged in person more often than I do.
    Just being added to a group like that without consent hardly seems fair. Again, glad I'm not on Facebook.

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    1. Mostly these days I use Facebook for writing groups I'm in. Without Facebook, I wouldn't be where I am in my freelancing career, so I'm grateful for it. But things like salesy crap just annoy me because they get in the way of what I'm actually interested in seeing.

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  2. Years ago, Facebook used to automatically add your friends to groups you created. Not cool.

    But it sounds to me she was hustling professionally. Also not cool.

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    1. And on the backs of her "friends." Although the friends I have who have done this have been cool about it. They just let you know they're out there and thank you if you order and that's it. The woman I'm talking about went to my high school but I have NO IDEA who she is. I'm 99.999% sure she never spoke to me in high school, but she's all too willing to speak to me if I'll buy from her!

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  3. Your "friend" needs a course in how to sell. She apparently took one in how to steamroll, by mistake. Big difference. Does she not understand that building a relationship with your customer is what leads to repeat sales? Guess not!

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    1. Absolutely. And I get that providing information on why your product is great or how it's changed your life is part of it. But most people today that people market that way now, so it still feels cheesy.

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  4. What took you so long? I'm just saying. I think this has happened to most of us at some point. I just tell people that I don't wear jewelry, I don't want this or I don't want that.

    Have a fabulous day. ☺

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    1. It's been happening to me in one form or another since 1994!

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  5. I have not encountered this probably because I keep a very limited FB circle. Sounds very annoying

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    1. Usually it's people who went to my high school. With a graduating class of 500-plus, as well as those in the years before or after me who have added me, it's unavoidable. But yeah, because of my books I do pretty much add anyone who wants to be my friend (as long as I can verify we have mutual friends).

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  6. I have a number of friends who sell stuff, but luckily they aren't that obnoxious! Their posts are occasional enough that I haven't even had to unfollow them. Only two have ever messaged me about their product/service. One, I actually joined up, and I'm really glad I did. (21 Day Fix) The other quietly went away when I told her I wasn't interested.

    Yes, your friend is a poor salesman. If she hadn't been such a pest, she might have made more sales!

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    1. I don't mind occasional posts...in fact, I think there are a few people selling things now. You can ignore those! Get this--one girl I used to work with is selling some weight-loss product that she won't REVEAL!!! She says you have to message her to find out what it is. Triple annoying.

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  7. I've never bought anything through Facebook this way. Nor has anyone I know-- as far as I have seen--been selling things this way.

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    1. I've bought a couple of things, but not much.

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  8. When people put me in groups without asking, I always turn off notifications. It's a matter of principle. I don't go to Facebook for buying things. I got there to connect with family and friends, just like I have since 2005. People targeting me as a potential customer on there are wasting their time.

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    1. It is surprising how often I'm added to random groups with no explanation. I definitely turn off notifications. Sometimes I just leave the group, depending on whether I know the person who added me personally or not!

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  9. Ugh. Yes. I had a friend (or really an old acquaintance) who got involved in one of those companies, friended me on Facebook, and was CONSTANTLY posting about "get your orders in" and "I've got this great special right now" and all that. It was so annoying I just unfriended her. Which was too bad because I actually did want to keep up with her and what was happening in her life. As long as it was OTHER things that were happening in her life...

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    1. UGH. So annoying. I really think if these people have customers they're speaking to, they need to put them in a group and leave all of that there. But they don't. They post on their main profile, which just means 90 percent of the people who see it will just scroll past. Let people know you're selling it and have a group and then leave it at that!

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  10. Ah, one of those 'friends' - amazing how persistent they can be.

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    1. You have to wonder if that EVER works for them!

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  11. I hate when friends and family try to sell me things!

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  12. What an annoying person. I would have blocked her very soon after she started her hijinks, too.

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    1. The good thing about Facebook is that you can turn off notifications and they never even realize it. I guess eventually they wonder why they don't ever get any comments on their posts if everyone does that, though!

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  13. We had a friend who was into the gem/jewelry parties which invited people through Facebook. She personally invited my wife to one when she was unemployed. We had to find a way to tell her that was not going to work.

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  14. I would find that very annoying. Almost as annoying as an older friend of mine who seemingly has NO idea how Facebook works. He sent me a friend request to which I accepted. The next day I received a friend request from the same person, different account. Over the weeks I've received a total of six friend requests, all from different accounts. He's not trying to scam me, and it really IS HIM. But he's older and somehow keeps starting new accounts and sending friend requests. Then he starts a group message, included about 10 to 15 people and posts a link only. I never click on links but he keeps adding me to the groups even though I keep leaving. It's annoying and frustrating.

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    1. That's all kinds of weird. Are you sure it's not a scam? I'll bet his other friends do. When I get a friend request from someone who's already a friend, I usually report it!

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    2. Other people have accepted his friend requests. I refused to respond to any but the first one. So scam or not, I'm not taking chances. Even finally unfriended the other (first) account.

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  15. No, it's the other way around. I try to make money off everyone else. I'm not successful at it. tee hee

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. LOL, well, I'm guessing that means you still have friends, which is more than I can say for the people who hound everyone to death!

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  16. And that's why I don't do FB :) I bet you were pleased to see that UNFOLLOW pop up :) Have a great week!

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    1. It does give you an element of control, right?!

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  17. oh yes! For some reason people are always trying to sell me things on Twitter. But not Facebook . . . yet.

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    1. They haven't found me on Twitter...but I only look at a select group of Tweets. So people can post whatever they want but if they aren't on my "List," I never even see it!

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  18. Yikes. It makes you wonder if people would do that in real life? Or is it just online that they become pushy? Glad you solved the problem.

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    1. I think these MLMs now train these people to do this crap on social media.

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  19. I only have a few who try to sell things, but I typically ignore the posts. The ones that bother me the most are the ones who constantly post about politics and religion. I tolerate the messages, but I don't really care about politics and religion, so at times I do hide the posts. If they continue, eventually I'll hide everything from the offending friend.

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  20. That's how sales works these days. Be as pushy as possible, get whatever you can, then get out. You will make money in the short term but then either get fired or your business will dry up and you'll have to start selling something else a year or two down the road. No one plans to do this long term.

    A few years ago I worked with a guy who sold photocopiers. He went into big banks and financial companies and told them not to use printing houses but to do their own work in house. A year later he was working for a print shop and went into THE SAME businesses and told them not to do the work in house (and use the machine he sold them the year before) but to buy from the print shop instead.

    The man had no shame whatsoever. He never lasted more than a year or two anywhere, but he won sales awards everywhere he went.

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  21. Sorry you had that issue.
    I blush to admit, but I find FB confusing. I don't think I've unfriended or left a group. sigh.

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  22. I had an unknown person sneak into my group and try that tactic. It was the only time I've ever blocked or unfriended anyone. I also got her out of my group. Nice try, I guess. But it feels the same as telemarketing to me and I'm not having it.

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  23. That hasn't happened to me, yet. Some people just don't get it.

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  24. Marketing is tricky at all levels, and I see (and probably have committed) many sins of this sort. I do really wish more people would learn that more is not more. The more often you push me to buy something, the less likely it becomes that I will.

    @mirymom1 from
    Balancing Act

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  25. I like how your story ends, what a moral for those who use social media for their businesses. If she'd have used common sense, you might even have bought something else from her. Don't be so dang needy, people!

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  26. You crack me up! I'm not on FB, but when I was oh yes. Honestly, I would buy stuff here and there because I knew they were trying to do something as a wife and mom and...well, that's what friends do! Haha.

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  27. One problem with marketing advice is you have to put you thinker in gear and decide what will work for you. I can't stand amway. I was essentially trapped in a hotel room to hear a presentation with some strange people. It creeped me out totally.

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  28. I did not know people could put you in groups without your consent. That's way annoying. I don't mind direct sellers, but some of them can be obnoxious.

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  29. I hate it when people add me to groups without asking first. Something about it just rubs me raw and I tend to leave every group someone has added me to. The only exception is a group for my family that a cousin added me to. I stayed there because it was family and let me keep up with people.

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  30. Yessssss!!!! I can't agree with this enough. I have a FB friend doing this to me right now. Drives me nuts. And it just makes me feel like a mark.

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  31. UGH YESSSSSS...Literally my life on FB. People I never talk to adding me to groups (which I had no idea why that was happening till I realized I was being Spammy McSpammed.) So. Freaking. Annoying.

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  32. Ugh. The only thing worse than having to see a wall of ads for crap products is the fact that posting on your "personal" page gets around the algorithm that requires most business pages to pay for exposure. So those nonsense, scam companies get all kinds of free publicity though the back door.

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  33. So glad you wrote about this! I have a lot of toys and things that I want to start selling on my blog and was feeling nervous. Nothing worse than the hard sell of putting off friends, especially those you've built a relationship with. So sorry this happened to you, but glad you had an easy out. (lol) Definitely not worth it. Hugs...RO

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  34. Wow, how annoying is that?! It's too bad that some people just don't get it.

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  35. I really hate stuff like this. I even dislike the "parties" people give around town. I don't mean to sound like a grump, but I just don't want to be sold stuff all the time, everywhere. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest!

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  36. Years ago a business associate retired. Shortly thereafter she invited me out for coffee to tell me about her new job. Turns out I was not the only one invited. It was one of those Ponzi schemes and she wanted us all to work for her. I told her what I thought and we have never spoken again.

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  37. Yes!! It's the worst feeling. On one hand, I want to support them, especially if I like the product, but being bombarded is a real turn-off. Sorry you had to experience that.

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  38. If I am friended for that reason, it's an automatic unfollow. I have no tolerance for that kind of thing. Life is too short.

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  39. I can understand how you feel. I tend to ignore the messages and only buy products when it is something I really want. I find that in the beginning most people are a little over the top and then it usually drops off. I currently have a friend who is selling something and she sends about 20 messages a day. If she sent one I might open it- but with 20 I just delete them all.

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  40. Yup. Been there, seen that. You buy one thing, and they jump on you forever!
    I also hate that I bought a gift for a friend who had a baby... and then got diaper and formula coupons from everywhere for months. Umm... it was one gift, one time. How did they even know? How did it get tracked to all five of my addresses, including work? My Snookums was like, "Did we adopt a kid and you forgot to tell me?" Ha ha.

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  41. Yikes! That sucks! Especially because it tarnishes your image of her.

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  42. Thankfully people seem to sense I'm often too broke to buy their shit. Sorry for your troubles Steph.

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