Friday, January 15, 2016

Remember the Good Old Days?

Maybe it was when you were fresh out of college, starting your first professional job. You hung out with friends in your free time and fell in love with the person you eventually married.


Maybe it was your college days, when you were carefree and life was one big party.


Or maybe it goes further back, to your childhood and a time when your biggest worry was how late you'd get to stay outside in the summertime.


For some people, the "good old days" are a combination of all of the above. Their nostalgia can be confusing, since it varies from one day to the next. Whatever the era, the problem is that people are spending their time looking back instead of enjoying what they have today.


Recently as I rewatched the finale of The Office, Andy said something that resonated with me. I even remember hearing it the first time the episode aired and thinking it was one of the most beautiful things I've heard. While working at Dunder Mifflin, Andy looked back nostalgically on his days at Cornell. He left Dunder Mifflin to work at Cornell and spent all his time remembering "the good old days" at Dunder Mifflin. His profound statement was this:


No matter how old you are, you'll never be this young again. Your kids will never be this age again and (if you have them) your grandkids will never be this age again. If you achieve all your dreams, you may even look back at today and wish you'd enjoyed "the climb" a little more.


Maybe in 2016 we should spend less time looking back and more time looking at what we have today.


Enjoy today as if it were one of the good old days you'll look back on someday.

52 comments:

  1. I've never been that nostalgic. I pretty much live for the here and now, with a little planning for the future. I can think back on fond memories and times, but they were no better than right now. My life is blessed right now and right now is what I am going to enjoy.

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  2. This is such a great reminder, Stephanie!! I really love that quote by Andy—it is pretty powerful. And this is something I've been thinking about a lot. I don't want to miss out on these precious moments with my children because I have my head stuck in a laptop 24/7. I think when I first started writing years ago, it was to escape the drudgery of having five small children who needed me constantly, and I wanted to feel like I was doing something for myself. But now, as my kids get older, I realize how amazing and fun they are, and I do miss those times when they were little. I guess it is all about enjoying the here and now, and finding balance. Great post! :)

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    1. I didn't know you had five children! The fact that you could even summon the mental energy to write when they were that young is amazing.

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  3. I don't remember the good old days because I've never had any :) With all the wars, poverty, embargos, political chaos, financial and human insecurities, lack of family support, I've never been carefree as long as I remember. But I do often say to people, who address me for psychological advice, that they should enjoy the little pleasures of today because tomorrow they might see them as the biggest pleasures they ever had. And many say it helps. At least if you have the basic foundation for it, like I don't :) I tend to look to the future but with years passing by I'm less of an optimist.

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    1. I'm sorry. :-( I do see why people move over here, although that does exist here, as well. Just more opportunities than in other countries.

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  4. I'm so not like this. Each day is a gift and I enjoy each day. I can plan ahead for some things as we all should, but I do live in the moment. Today is the good old days.

    Have a fabulous day. ☺

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    1. Yep! We're in the good old days right now, wherever we are in life.

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  5. Such wise words. Puts me in mind of the saying 'Yesterday is History, Tomorrow a Mystery, Today is a Gift, Thats why it's called the Present'.

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    1. I love that one! There's something similar to that hanging on a sign above my coffeepot. It came with the house, but it's a great reminder every morning!

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  6. Great post, Stephanie! It reminds me of a saying I heard once, something about - it's okay to glance in the rearview mirror, just don't stare. :)

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    1. Great one! I haven't heard that one before.

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  7. Great advice Stephanie! I like where I am now less a few wrinkles lol.

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    1. Yes, I think we all could do without the signs of aging!

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  8. Whenever I look back at the good old days (and there were some) some of the bad crap also pops up and I am pretty happy with today.

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    1. It is definitely human nature to only remember the good things about the past.

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  9. Hahaha the good old days. Well, I guess they were fun (and god knows I loved to party), but I really would prefer not to be single ever again. That suckeddddddd. The dating scene is garbage! Not for the faint of heart.

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    1. Ugh. Dating. WAY too much drama. Worse than a Lifetime movie! ;-)

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  10. My 20's were memorable...by the time I was 28 I had five babies and remember thinking I didn't want them to get any older because they were so cute...but I've felt that way every decade since and am now feeling it about my great grandson. One shouldn't live in the past but relish every day for it brings new hope and things to be grateful for.

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    1. Kids definitely grow up too fast. That's one area you don't want to rush!

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  11. I believe my good old days are yet to come. I wouldn't dare repeat my childhood, teenage, or college years. My 30s were my best and my 40s are looking even better. :) Have a lovely weekend!

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    1. I remember when I graduated high school, everyone was talking about how we'd remember these as "the best years of our lives." I kept thinking, "How depressing is that?" Why would anyone want to believe the best years were over? On top of that, high school SUCKED!

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  12. I'm all for the living in the now but by golly, the price of heat is way up the roof and so is the price of housing. Now just thinking of that makes me want to go back in time...
    Hugs,
    JB

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    1. Haha! Yes, if we could make the money we make today with the costs of 40 years ago, we'd all be rich!

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  13. Good advice, but very tough to do.

    I've always been nostalgic, so I'm usually aware when I'm in the moment that it's this wonderful once-in-a-lifetime experience that won't happen again.

    I'm trying to make more of those moments, so when I'm on my deathbed I'll have no shortage of beautiful memories to look back on.

    I wouldn't go back to my childhood OR my college days, though.

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  14. I think all of us take the moment for granted and don't appreciate it until it's "nostalgia"

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  15. I love nostalgia. I love remembering days gone by. But I never do so at the cost of living for the moment either. Life is what you make it. If you make it nothing but nostalgia, you'll be living in the past forever. But if you build your life on what's most enjoyable, no matter when they happened (even the party last week), you'll live a full and satisfying life.

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  16. I need this post today, so thank you! I'm not good at enjoying the climb, but I should definitely be better at it!

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  17. I definitely enjoy where I am. Where I've been was great, too, but I have so much potential! I never would have said that 10 years ago. :)

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  18. I have many fond memories of my childhood and since I was born in 1956 I was a teenager in the 70's. What fun, and I still love disco music, too! :)

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  19. That is so true. I spend far too much time waiting to get to the next thing, next chapter of life, next big event without enjoying the moment I'm in. Then I look back and think about what a great time that was. Sigh! I guess we all need to learn about contentment.

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  20. I hope today's not the good old days. But things are looking up.

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  21. My great time is now. I have a wonderful supportive writing community, freelance writing job I love, live tweeting with my shows and even writers of some of my fave books. Now is the time.

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  22. I can get behind the idea of cherishing the moment, but also counting the blessings and learning experiences, large and small, of the past and the hope of the future.

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  23. This is so true and wise words. I look back but not through rose-coloured glasses because that is not the truth. It shaped me but if stay in the past then I have no growth. I love the present and look forward to the future. I have seen many people try to reclaim the past and it is sad as they are stuck. I am loving it right now-I have read your post while listening to one of the Battle of the Bands. Enjoy your weekend

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  24. Very good post. It's nice to look back at the past and look forward to the future, but it's also good to enjoy the time you're in. :)

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  25. Sometimes we do look back and think of the good old days we once had. But it is also good to enjoy the good of our present days and the beautiful moments we had with one another because we will never know what tomorrow may be like. Have a happy weekend!

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  26. I think that's so true. How often do we look back and wonder why we didn't appreciate what we had whilst we had it.

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  27. Very true. We have to enjoy every moment because we never get them back.

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  28. One of my goals is to be more mindful and present and to spend more time in the now. I tend to worry about the future a lot. I find it a balance of looking back and looking forward and being in the now.

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  29. This was such a true and inspiring message! We are always looking back but the best way to treat our lives is to yet, occasionally think back and reflect - but to live in the now and to enjoy the time you have. You might not ALWAYS enjoy it but there are plenty of moments which are going to pass unappreciated unless you take note of them now.

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  30. Great quote from Andy. Maybe that is why we think the good old days were so good because when we were younger we lived in the moment a little better. Sure we wanted to have a birthday or be done with tests or something, but each day we tended to live in the moment more and enjoy playing outside or partying or whatever we were doing. I am trying to live in the moment more in 2016. This post was a great reminder- because it is easy to look back or look to far in the future instead of enjoying each day. :) Happy Saturday to you.

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  31. Good post...
    Those good old days...:)

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  32. Great advice. We can't go back to the past, we don't know what the future holds, all we have is the present. When I look back at my childhood years, teenage years and others, I remember the good things or the things I wish I'd done differently. Why worry, though? We can't change it, and today is beautiful, if we give it a chance. Have a great weekend.

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  33. This really hits home today.

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  34. I agree completely. I've got a lot of good memories, but no desire to relive them.
    Enjoy your weekend, Steph.

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  35. So true. Sometimes you look back and you're like, "where did all those days go?"
    Really. Might as well enjoy the now before it becomes another yesterday.

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  36. Good post. When I start getting sappy about the good old days, I remember that there were plenty of not so good days in there too. That kind of snaps me back into making the most of today.

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  37. We are working hard to make wonderful memories with our granddaughter that we can look back on in 20 years as the good old days!

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  38. Engaging post, Stephanie! I can't imagine anyone not having at least a week of 'good old days'. But then, "It's no surprise the good old days seem better than the present, they've spent more time in editing!" ~ Tom Wilson

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  39. Well finding Love would've been very Easy back then compared to today do to the Change in the women since Most women that now have their Careers today are very Spoiled and Selfish. They now only want the Best of all and will Never settle for Less either. Quite a Change in the women of today from years ago since many of us Good Single men would've been Definitely married already with our own family that many of us still Don't have today. Now i know why our Family Members had it Very Easy back then.

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