"You're my inspiration."
"Love is u."
Then come the inappropriate comments. I can't quote those here because they're filled with profanity and disgusting words about what these men want to do to this 17-year-old girl. But it isn't long before people speak up.
"You are almost 40."
"It's simply amazing to me the amount of sexual comments being directed at a 17-year-old girl from grown-a** men... That's someone's daughter!"
Soon after came the rebuttals.
"She knew what she was doing by posting herself in a bikini."
"Calling a 17-year-old sexy isn't wrong, so please get off your high horses."
The picture that started the uproar?
Was that what you were expecting? Because as I was reading the comments, I was thinking, "Did people see the same photo I did? Because there's nothing really all that provocative about the 'bikini' she's wearing. In fact, it looks more like a two-piece bathing suit to me."
In response to the uproar, the actress in the photo, Ariel Winter, posted the below photo that defines a woman by her skirt length:
Of course, it's important to note that the comments on the original photo were largely supportive. Only a couple of the male commenters were inappropriate. But it appeared that the "she's asking for it" comments were largely a product of middle-aged men defending themselves because they see nothing wrong with making sexually explicit comments about a 17-year-old girl.
I used to work with a woman whose teenage daughter would come downtown and have lunch with us sometimes. She had serious chest action going on and wasn't afraid to show it. As we'd walk around downtown, the number of way-too-old men who ogled her was alarming, but only because she was underage. It's a tough one, because those men may not have known she was a minor...and it isn't illegal to look. Still, it provokes a reaction when you care about the teenager they're ogling.
The girls being ogled usually aren't paying attention. Unless the guy falls into the category of "hot," he may as well not even exist. But blaming the young girl isn't the answer. Saying the men are wrong for looking isn't the answer, either. However, there is a difference between looking at someone and saying extremely disgusting things to that person.
How do you feel about men who ogle underage women? Would that opinion change if it were your daughter/niece/granddaughter being ogled?