Friday, May 22, 2015

Road Rage: A Waste of Time

Every now and then, I find myself stuck in traffic. It reminds me of the 21 years I spent driving to downtown Nashville.



In the early years, I'd get frustrated. I'd shout at my fellow commuters.



By the time I arrived at work, I looked like this.



Then I discovered audiobooks. I'd sync my car with my phone, press play, and follow the exciting adventures of various fictional characters.



Add some coffee and what do you have? A relaxing commute. Cut me off in traffic? I don't care. I'm chillin' with my coffee and some good fiction.



Many days, I hated to arrive at work. It meant the end of my quiet time. Plus it meant the beginning of...you know...work.



I could have spent my mornings like this...



But instead I made the most of it. I turned it into enjoyable early-morning me time.



Do you suffer from road rage?

54 comments:

  1. When I experience road rage, I always end up getting mad at myself... Thankfully, I don't normally have to drive in heavy traffic and it is a very pleasant drive into my office and only 4 miles.

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    1. I've had to drive on the interstate a lot more since moving and I have to say, the tailgaters drive me crazy. I don't know if they were always this bad or they've gotten worse. I'll actually move to the left to get away from them, then get back behind them again and they'll just tailgate the next person ahead. I don't know why some people like to ride other people's bumpers.

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  2. When I was a consultant and on the road frequently, audio books were a lifesaver. No, I live very close to work in a non-urban area where traffic is usually not a big deal. Glad about that as well.

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    1. Audiobooks come in pretty handy when you're doing boring household chores, too!

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  3. OMG who the hall drives cats in their cars? That is danger on the road

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  4. I've tried the audiobooks, but my mind strays so much, I would miss major chunks of the book, so I gave up.

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    1. Me, too! Especially with Stephen King. He has a beautiful way with words, but it's easy for your mind to drift when you're listening, rather than reading. Audible has a "go back" feature and I use it often!

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  5. I only ever get miffed when I really need to get some place and I'm stuck, which isn't usual, or when I'm on the highway, it's a bright clear day, and I get stuck behind the one idiot who goes way less than the speed limit and there is no passing lane.

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    1. Yeah, I've found when you're running late, the stress can bring road rage out. Most of the time I'm not on a schedule anymore and I tend to forget that everyone around me is stressed, especially if it's during the week and I'm on the way to run errands.

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  6. I used to be hell on wheels. Not anymore. There are just too many idiots out there texting, and whatever else. It's not worth high blood pressure on these idiots. So, I just go with the flow anymore. With age comes wisdom.

    Have a fabulous day. ☺

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    1. As I tell my husband, the best thing to do when you see someone doing something stupid is to just hang back and try to stay out of their way! Although a car veered into my lane today and I honked...he didn't seem to realize two lanes were turning left. I only honked briefly and it was just to let him know, "Hey, you almost hit someone." I wasn't angry...just trying to get him to see he needed to pay better attention. I thought afterward, "Why did I do that? He probably would have realized he did that without me honking at him!"

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  7. when i commuted into dallas, i drove in quiet. if i was stuck in a traffic jam, i always reminded myself that it was better to be behind an accident than in it. i have had moments of losing my cool, but it really isn't worth it - and can be very dangerous these days. :)

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    1. Definitely true! You have to face the fact that there are some things you just can't control.

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  8. I know plenty of people who experience road rage. I witness it all around me. I'm that one person who people honk and scream at when I'm not going fast enough or when I'm not pumping the gas pedal a nanosecond after the light turns green. I'm like, WTF? I just stare at them with this very serene look on my face and think to myself, "That man's going to have a heart attack and his poor wife and kids are going to mourn....wait, no they aren't."

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    1. True. We just have relaxed, happy, flexible lives!

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  9. I'm thankful that I don't have to commute often, but when I did, I listened to music, daydreamed, and made up stories in my head. It helped. I have listened to a few audiobooks, but usually on long car trips with my kids.

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    1. I don't listen to as many now that I don't drive as much...I started with celebrity biographies and other nonfiction books, though. I found it was easier to pay attention to those while driving than fiction.

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  10. Sometimes, I just try to leave a little early. Cuts the stress down a bit.

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    1. If more people would do that, the road would be a much more pleasant place!

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  11. I think you had the right approach when stuck driving to consider it quiet time and to listen to books while you navigated the road. A friend where we used to live had about an hour commute (and that was only if the traffic was good). She learned to be really good about time managing her time there, putting makeup on (while stuck in stop/go traffic), writing lists (same thing), etc. You have to be creative like that to avoid road rage indeed!

    betty

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    1. You have to make the most of things. I used to have a notepad in the car so I could write if I ever got stuck at a complete standstill in traffic. There were days I would be at a complete standstill for 15 minutes or longer. Gotta make the most of the time!

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  12. I watched an ambulance blow it's horn repeatedly at a lady with head phones on. She was listening to music and didn't hear the sirens. We have road rage because people are not paying attention to driving. Then again we have road rage when people do not allow enough time to get where they need or want to be.

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    1. I worked with a guy who got his first mp3 player and was so excited about it, he had earbuds in all day. He didn't even realize he wasn't supposed to drive with them in his ears until someone told him! I see people driving around like that all the time. I know it's illegal but is anyone ticketing for it? I don't know if everyone knows they can be ticketed for it.

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  13. I don't drive... but I probably would because I get frustrated with extremely slow walkers... if I ever drive I'll take your suggestions ♡

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  14. No road rage, but perhaps it's because I usually ride around town in my wheelchair or on a bus. When I'm in the crosswalk and someone is so impatient to turn, he/she almost runs me over... I get... miffed.

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  15. Brilliant idea - I shall invest in some audio books immediately.

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  16. I never had road rage. I always left at least 30 minutes earlier than I needed to in case something came up and I needed the extra time to get there.

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  17. We live in southern California and traffic is everywhere! Simply Audio -- audio books on CD has saved my husband!

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  18. I don't suffer from road rage. Road terror some days. And awe at the infinite stupidity of our species. And wonder at the number of new cars which don't come equipped with blinkers (indicators).

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  19. Sometimes my road rage gets the better of me, but that's mostly when I'm already running late myself. So I am already mad at me and then I get short-tempered with other people. But if I start out feeling fine, then I can let go of stupid things like slow drivers.

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  20. haha! I love it. I get road annoyance (not really rage lol) only when people go too fast behind me (I'm a granny driver lol) or the worst is when I stop for a schoolbus with its stop sign out and flashing, and people honk and then GO AROUND ME. seriously?? I mean, gee, I'm sorry I wasn't willing to run down the adorable schoolchildren...lol

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  21. I'm retired now so I'm not on the road a lot. When I was working, at first I had to drive 12 miles to my job. The traffic wasn't bad, so I never experienced road rage. Then we moved and I was only a short distance from my work. Very little traffic. The perks of a small town. If I had to drive the Dallas freeway, I'd probably end up with road rage. Do not like a lot of cars around me.

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  22. I don't have to deal with that kind of traffic, luckily. But audiobooks are a great way to deal with it, for those who do. I'm not a big road rager either. I'll just swear in my head at them and that's about it. :)

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  23. No road rage here. Not worth it.

    Love,
    Janie

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  24. I've missed your blog! But I love that I have a lot of catch up reading to do :)

    No road rage here, except when I'm driving with my daughter in the car. If I even think that someone around me is doing something unsafe, I start to flip out. I'll have to keep my words in check pretty soon...don't want her repeating what I say when I'm angry ;)

    Missed you!! xo

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  25. I can't do audiobooks in the car. For long car trips we used to, but I hated it. I'd rather have music. As for road rage, yeah, I get ticked at other drivers, but not ragey, if that makes any sense.

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  26. Luckily, I work so near my house (I transfer every time I get a new job) so I don't have to suffer as much as the other commuters. I wonder why most of my office mates would come to work looking like they've had a long day when it haven't even started yet at work.

    That's a good thing you decided to turn the bad vibes around and spend your energy to better things. It really helps what you do or what you feed your mind, don't you think?

    That last pic though. Haha.

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  27. That was a hoot:) My theory is car manufacturers in the south should save themselves some money and just leave the blinkers off. The drivers don't use them.

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  28. I love these animal pictures because I have to admit I can feel like that at times and I have a very short commute (12 min by car). I have to admit I do have some road rage. I will yell at the car to get off the road knowing they can't hear me and my fingers can do some amazing sign language. Once An idiot blocked my way into an entrance...my wonderful usage of words came forth and add to the sadness my mom was in the car. The guy was a jerk though

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  29. Pretty glad I only have to commute five minutes to do the school run! Having kids in the car is actually a good way to control road rage, too. When you're trying to teach them to control their temper, you've blown it if you're screaming at other drivers.

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  30. WE have always tried to keep commute time to a minimum. I have in the past suffered from road rage, now not so much methinks, but Sherry might see it different. I love it when we are heading west, I love saying good by to Kansas City, love the less traveled roads.
    Thanks for stopping by the shipslog.

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  31. PS, I meant to say I really enjoyed the read and pics.

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  32. This post made me laugh, I can imagine not wanting to go into work after such an enjoyable commute.

    I can't really relate to the road rage thing though. I live on a little island and my six mile commute takes ten minutes. There was one time a few months ago when I was nearly late to work because of a random cow strolling down the road first thing in the morning, but that doesn't happen very often. ;-)

    Cait @ Click's Clan

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  33. I was an angry driver in my teens and twenties, but as an older driver I enjoy music, look for detours, and take sky, landscape, and building pictures if I'm not moving.

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  34. I think I used to have more rage while driving. Now I drive the speed limit, listen to an audio book or music, sip my coffee and enjoy the ride. The only time I feel a hit of rage is when I have somewhere to be (not work) that is important and the traffic is holding me up. Then I am more frustrated by the traffic than the other drivers and I try to remind myself it is what it is. :)

    Love the pictures you used!

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  35. What a great point! I definitely get ragey. I live in a tourist town, and some of the vacationers have no idea where they're going, but they'll cheerfully cut me off in traffic and then drive five miles an hour anyway. It's extremely frustrating. But I do love audiobooks, so maybe I'll start using them for more commutes.

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  36. Those pictures made me laugh! I don't have road rage (thank God). I wish that there was a "polite" honk when people are daydreaming and the light turns green because I don't want them to think that I'm being mean and get all crazy on me.

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  37. Road rage - now that's a topic for discussion. I'm one who starts early and usually I don't have an issue but I've certainly had plenty times where it was very frustrating to sit in traffic and know I was going to be late. We have several areas where four lanes go into two and I don't really care but it is amazing to watch other drivers go crazy trying to get one car length in front. I love the photos you used. :-)

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  38. Making my way around on the A to Z Road trip! Stopping by to say hello and I hope to see you again next year, if not sooner!

    Mary
    www.JingleJangleJungle.net

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  39. I rarely get mad at traffic anymore. Every now and then I yell a bit inside my car though if someone does something really reckless. Your commute sounds nice :)

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  40. I haven't driven in years, which really cuts down on the road rage but sucks in terms of mobility. If I did, though, I would try your plan! It's brilliant.

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  41. Controlled road rage, which is specifically designed for the given moment of driving. Overall, my entire trip can be good, but perhaps maybe a minute or two qualifies as road rage.

    Fortunately, I don't unleash with my 14 year old daughter in the car, only with the wife or my 22 year old son.

    Father Nature's Corner

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  42. Sounds just about perfect. :)

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