Monday, May 18, 2015

5 Reasons I'll Never Move Again

Every time I move, I say the same thing.



I also say I'm never going to move again. I was in my last house nine years, though--the longest I've lived anywhere. Since I'm 44 years old, that tells you I've moved quite a few times.



Earlier this month, I moved again. We still haven't unpacked all the boxes. As I struggle to find "the new normal," I find myself uttering the same words I say with every move: "I'm never moving again." Here are five reasons why.

#5: Flood flashbacks

We went through the 2010 Nashville flood. We had to move all of our belongings out, toss 75 percent of them in the trash, rebuild our house, then move what remained of our belongings back in. That was five years ago. Preparing our old house to sell was a little too much like rebuilding after the flood for my taste. I wonder if I'll ever be able to walk into a Home Depot again without having flashbacks.



#4: Discombobulation

Unless you move down the street, chances are you'll have to relearn everything. Where's the grocery store? Who delivers pizza? When is trash pickup? The weeks it takes to settle into a new routine are fine if you have no full-time job. If you're busy, it's all just a pain in the you-know-what.



#3: Paperwork

"Hi. We're handling your mortgage. Before we can close your loan, we'll need you to send over your last three pay stubs, proof of employment, and a pint of blood."


#2: Selling Is a Pain

If you're buying a house, you're moving out of something. Unless it's your mom's basement (and she's really lenient), that means you have to thoroughly clean it and repair all the little things that have become damaged over time. If you put it on the market while you're still living there, it also means you have to be prepared to leave the house every time someone wants to look at it.



#1: Comcast

Comcast is the only Internet option where I live. They outsource local installation to lazy idiots and outsource their calls to overseas workers who have no idea what's going on. The result is a big mess. I could tell you all the ways they suck, but I'm just going to enjoy finally having Internet and hope I never have to speak to a Comcast rep named "Ryan" in India for the rest of my life.



What was your last move like? Do you think you'll move again soon?

65 comments:

  1. I think dealing with the Internet guys would be the worst.
    Being a military brat, I moved a lot when I was a kid. As an adult, only moved a couple times, and can't imagine doing it now.
    Really sorry you had to go through the flooding.

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    1. Thank you, Alex! Yes, the Internet was the hardest part. We had to pretty much get hostile with them to speak with someone in America who could actually tell us what was going on. Seems the overseas reps just say whatever they can to get you off the phone--"You're top priority. Someone will be there by noon." Then we'd call back and they'd say, "There's nothing on your record about someone coming out today." It was the craziest thing!

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  2. I hate moving too! Especially because of the paper work... changing all the documents and such things... it takes so much time especially here in my country.... But I've been planning to move to the capital city for years now.... but can't find job there :(

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    1. So sorry to hear that! I work from home...so I could technically live anywhere, but I prefer living at least somewhat close to amenities like restaurants and grocery stores.

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    2. Can't you work from home, Dezz? Start your own business?

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    3. There are all kinds of opportunities for freelancing, especially if you live in an area where the cost of living is high. I had to move away from Elance.com because people on there expect writers to write blogs for $20 or less for 500 words..but if you have writing talent and $20 is a lot of money for a couple of hours of work, it's an awesome deal.

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  3. Besides the 50 showings in one month (no exaggeration) the worst for me was the water department and the cable/Internet. And I'm 100 percent sure that Time Warner sells your phone number to solicitors, after what we went through the first few months.

    Glad you're done!

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    1. Our mortgage guy said that when you buy a house, it goes on record with the city. Because that information is public information, it's accessed by every solicitor in a reasonable radius. Our mailbox is filled with "We have a special gift for your new home" postcards. It's pretty annoying. I could see the 50 showings in one month in this market, though... There's a shortage of houses here in the Nashville area, so every good house is snatched up within a matter of days. With so many home shoppers I could see a new home being flooded with showings...although it wouldn't last long because it would get an offer the first week!

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  4. I moved in 1977 to the house we built ourselves with the help of my brothers and been here ever since. Been flooded twice badly and had to move all the cattle to another farm an hour away.

    Before moving, I packed boxes and labeled all the content and what room the box would go. With 4 kids age, 11, 9, 5, and 3. I kept only the essential like when we went camping. Everything else was packed so on moving day we loaded up the farm wagon and move the boxes in the proper room. It was easy to find the stuff when everything was labeled. Moving now would be a big hassle since we have too much stuff.
    We didn't had internet, cell phones and all those electronic gadgets and only had cable and telephone. It was bliss...
    Hugs,
    JB

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  5. I hear you! We moved a number of times, too, and we pretty much did it all ourselves. I thought we could do the same thing this time since the move was just down the road. However, I forgot to take into account the fact that now we have a lot more stuff AND we're a lot older. Sigh. :)

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    1. We hired someone to get the stuff from our old house to our new one and it still was a LOT of work! Packing and unpacking is just exhausting.

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  6. I moved last year after having lived 10 1/2 years in the same home. Although I don't relish the thought of moving, and am hoping it doesn't happen until I retire, I am sure I will at some point move again.

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    1. Me, too. I'm sure we'll decide this house is too big and we need to downsize at some point. Just cleaning it is going to wear me out.

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  7. My last move was just April 1st. It was crazy because A to Z was going on at the same time, but I couldn't wait to move to get out of the crap apartment I was in....which I was in for seven years. That is my longest stretch at one place.

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    1. We were looking for a house during A to Z, so I feel you! Lots of people are moving this year.

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  8. When I moved to Boston in 2006 I said I would never move again. Five years later I was moving internationally. Uh, the visa process is one huge pain in the buttocks. Again I said I'll never move again. But I will be in a year. Already dreading it!

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    1. It's tough enough to move locally...even tougher to move to a new city or state. But to a new country? That's an all different level of chaos!

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  9. I have no patience dealing with companies that have the monopoly on anything... since they don't have any competition they can treat us anyway they like.

    I have been needing to move for awhile but I'm not moving unless I can find a place that has what I need with size, location and price... ♡ xox

    Luckily my place now is inexpensive enough for me to wait... but like you I hope to never have to move again. I've moved a lot too and it's exhausting...

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    1. Google Fiber is coming to Nashville...but probably not to the area of town I'm in anytime soon. Still, if anyone can knock Comcast on its butt, Google can! I don't know what kind of customer service Google will provide when it's dealing with the mass public. Right now, most of us have no need to ever contact them for help.

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  10. ugghh I remember hearing about that flood, I can imagine that would stay with you for a long time! moving is hell, and you're so right about the selling part. Keeping everything clean ALL THE TIME was probably hardest for me and then the call that buyers were coming and having to leave on a dime!

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    1. Exactly...and if you have pets, you have to take the pets with you when you leave, which is a pain. Unless you can lock them in the garage in a kennel. I remember on Thanksgiving weekend being at my mother-in-law's house when the realtor called to say someone wanted to see the house that day. We had stuff spread out everywhere.

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  11. Your number one is spot on. Why is it that cable company is always the worst offender? Hopefully you won't move again for a long while. I know I'm here in my house for a good long time unless my husband gets a job elsewhere. I don't mind moving, but I've never had to do so with a kid and I don't want to try that right now!

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    1. Comcast sucks! My advice if you do have to move again is to have your Internet set up a week or two before you move. We work from home, though, so it's a big problem not to have Internet. I was tethering to my cell phone and my husband was driving to the old house to work.

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  12. i cannot imagine you ever forgetting the flood and all that went with it. wow.

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    1. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger!

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  13. It's the paper work that keeps me from moving. Okay, it's the lack of money but it's the idea of heaploads of paper work that keep me from finding a better job. Yes?

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    1. When you're a freelancer, it's like you're applying for a job every single week. You have to always be looking for new, better-paying opportunities on job boards and such. It never stops!

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  14. I`m 30 and have moved 16 times. Once due to stupid building catching on fire, that was the worst. My latest one was the best as it was a brand new apt building so I got to start moving in a week early, easier to do over time here and there.

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    1. I haven't counted, but I do feel that apartment life is more transient. I never found an apartment I really liked living in enough to stay for long. Either you had an extremely annoying neighbor or they started hiking up the rent every year. That was my last apartment--I was in a one-bedroom apartment and they posted something on my door that they were raising the rent to $850...that was more than $100 a month over what I was paying at the time.

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  15. Welcome to my world with dealing with people from India (nothing against India but having a better command of our language sometimes can make a difference :) Our IT support is in India and we joke that we deal with "Phil" and we all dread having to call them for problems.

    Oh gosh I totally get it with moving :) 13 in 26 years and another one looming ahead in December :)

    That would drive me crazy with the internet service since I need it for work and need it reliable.

    I totally agree with selling a house; hard to always have to leave it when buyers come by and they always seem to want to come by around dinnertime.

    The good news is you will eventually be settled in and it will feel like home and hopefully you truly won't have to move again ever.

    betty

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    1. I worked in IT for state government for years...I can imagine eventually even government will outsource to India. It's just cheaper to pay a call center over there and, really, businesses/government don't care about whether or not people can use their products or services. They put all their money into winning over new customers. This is especially true with government/utilities who have a monopoly. When customers really have no other choice but to use your services, what's the point in putting money into customer service?

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  16. A great reminder of why I never plan to move though thankfully we have never had flooding to contend with.

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    1. Yeah, it was a 1,000-year flood even for Nashville. Mother Nature can be brutal!

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  17. Inherited my parents' home with mortgage in 2011. I'm here for as long as the good Lord is willing and the creek don't rise. Moving is a drag, I agree.

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    1. The creek had better not rise!!!

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  18. Moving is a love/hate relationship. I love throwing things out and organizing. But, yeah, finding new pizza places, phone numbers for doctors, grocery stores...ugh:( I feel your pain. Next time, I move, I want it to be across town to this gorgeous house on a pond with horses in the backyard. Just dreaming:)

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  19. Love this post, Stephanie! You brilliantly describe the top moving nightmares. To be honest, my last move wasn't so bad as I was relocating in my neighborhood.

    I love my new(ish) place and it would take an awful lot to make me move again. It's so hard and it can be depressing as you look at your life packed into boxes. Not for the faint of heart.

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  20. YES, selling is a pain! No arguments there. My last house was on the market for 10 days. It took three times that length of period to get it prepared. By then, I was ready to take a loss just to be done with it!

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  21. I've only moved three times in my seventeen years, and I've had my fill, thank you very much. Unfortunately, I see a lot move moving around on the horizon...*groans* oh well.

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  22. I moved so much growing up that the idea of pulling up stakes and doing it again makes me ill. Of course, moves to a lot to clear out excess baggage, and I've got a lot of that accumulating around me.

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  23. My last move wasn't too bad. It was over 11 years ago, and I was 5 months pregnant. Now that might sound bad, but for the actual physical move, it was nice. Nobody let me carry anything heavy. :)

    I have no desire to move. I love our neighborhood.

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  24. We moved into our new home in October 2001, right after 9/11. We had a mover come get all our stuff and move it to our new home. They put all the stuff in whatever room it was supposed to be in. I still hated the upset of it all. It took a very long time to get everything unpacked.

    The next move will be the old folks home. Then the kids can deal with all the stuff we have. It's like a good payback.

    Have a fabulous day. :)

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  25. They say the most stressful things in life are divorce and moving. I'm inclined to agree.

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  26. Moving sucks better and bigger than any vacuum ever made. (I am sure that there is an advertising slogan in there somewhere) I hope not to move again. Ever.
    Next weekend I am bidding on a house at auction for one of my brothers and I cringe thinking of the work ahead for them. And probably for me.

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  27. We have a few choices over here.

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  28. I grew up moving around a lot. In fact, I attended six different grade schools. No, I was not an army brat, my parents just liked to move. Needless to say, I was never popular in school because I never stayed anywhere for anyone to get to know me. Flash forward 30 years and now I was married to a wife who really loved to move also. In our 13 years of marriage we lived in about six different places. Finally I had had enough and refused to move any more. But she wanted to move on. Seems more so than she wanted to be married. Ten years later and I'm still in the same place we lived at when we were married. She's on her 4th different place of residence. Do I hate to move? Yes.

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  29. Let's have a brief moment of silence for moving. It's pretty ghastly.
    The one break I caught was when we moved it was within a mile of where we were living.
    I'm with you, I don't want to do it again.......

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  30. I've lived in the same apartment for almost seven years. I will forever rent as I have no money to buy.., much of anything. Before that, my husband and I lived with my family.

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  31. I hate moving but I might move one more time to get a bigger place some day in the future.

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  32. Oh I hate moving. I have helped people move and helped my mom move which was the worst. She never threw anything out. I moved back in 1999 and do not plan to move anytime soon because it was insane. I bought a 100 year old home with layers and layers of wallpaper. 7 layers in 1 room and 14 in another! I bought a duplex so my mom could live in the Apartment above me. She had to go through my part to get to her space but that worked. To have to get the house in order in 3 weeks for me to move and then my mom to move was nuts. I feel for you and hope you can settle in quickly

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  33. Yeah, another move is in my near future. I'm not looking forward to it. And cable companies... Yeah, I've boycotted the local one due to idiocy. Luckily, there are other options.

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  34. The longest I lived in a house was twelve years. I still miss that house. A couple of places housed us for a mere three months each. Moving is so difficult. I turn a house into a home, and then I have to give it up so someone else can ruin all my beautiful decorating choices. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that flood. That must have been horrible.

    Love,
    Janie

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  35. We're supposed to be moving to Palau next year (or, if worst comes to worst, the following year). It's going to be a huge culture shock. There may not even be a neighbourhood pizza place!

    I feel your pain. I hate moving, too.

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  36. LOL! Yes to all of these! We moved a little over two years ago and I SWEAR we are NEVER moving again!! It is awful. Truly.

    From trying to fix up your home to sell, to vacating the premises every time someone wants to see it, to packing up all the crap and then learning your way around a new area—there really isn't anything fun about it. :)

    Good luck getting settled into your new place!! After a few months, you'll forget all the craziness. I promise! :)

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  37. There was a point in my early thirties when I moved three times in three years. It was horrendous. The first was after graduation, second was switching jobs, and third was from an apartment to my first house. A few years after that, my husband decided to go on sabbatical for a year, so two moves in one year, this time with a toddler and an infant. For each one, I did my own packing. Moving can be hell.

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  38. There was a point in my early thirties when I moved three times in three years. It was horrendous. The first was after graduation, second was switching jobs, and third was from an apartment to my first house. A few years after that, my husband decided to go on sabbatical for a year, so two moves in one year, this time with a toddler and an infant. For each one, I did my own packing. Moving can be hell.

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  39. I hope you enjoy your new home once you can settle in and find everything. Fortunately, I've lived in the same house for 34 years. We built our dream house in 1981and I'm still here, though I'm not sure for how long. It's a big house for one person and two cats. It's also in the country with acres of grass to mow. (Thank heavens my son helps out.) We'll see.

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  40. I feel ya. I hate moving. I'm 25 and have moved 8 or 9 times (most of those in the last 6 years) and am planning on moving again late this year or early next year. Packing sucks, but I think this time I will be VERY happy to move.
    That really sucks about your house flooding. I can't even imagine :(

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  41. Moving is the worst! This last time, we were about a week from putting the house on the market when the main water line to the house decided to break and flood the basement on a Sunday afternoon. Needless to say, the house did not get on the market a week later. And now, we're in an apartment temporarily until my husband finds a job. It may be the first time I have ever looked forward to moving.

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  42. LOVED number one! We moved here about 10 years ago to be closer to our granddaughter and unless they move -- which is highly unlikely -- we aren't going anywhere! Whew! Moving really is a nightmare!

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  43. Great post! I moved a year ago and it was definitely a process. The good news was that I did downsize a little bit and clear out some clutter.

    I think the paperwork is one of the worst! I hope your internet service works beautifully after all the difficulties. :)

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  44. I plan on moving 1-2 more times in my life and then that's IT. I hate moving too. It's the worst.

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