Wednesday, February 18, 2015

Guest Post: Elizabeth Seckman on Romance

Today I'm excited to host my great blogging friend Elizabeth Seckman, who is celebrating the launch of her latest book:



Elizabeth is a true romantic. I love her view on things. She writes strong, spunky characters and truly romantic heroes. I love her writing and can't wait to read Defying Reason! Here's her take on the romance genre:


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Hi Stephanie! Thanks for having me over.


People often ask me if I think my books (though written for the NA/Adult reader) are suitable for their teen daughter. And I, coming from my vast stores of wisdom, answer...it depends.


If you're the kind of parent who is offended by mild profanity and sexual situations, then no.These books are not meant for your child.


But, if your teen has ever watched MTV, then yes. As a matter of fact, I highly recommend them to counter the MTV culture where our girls are being conditioned to equate romance with booty calls and one night stands. Our media took the intimacy out of the intimate relationship, and I contend it started with the attack on happily-ever-after.


They decided love stories and fairy tales were sexist. That love was nothing better than a four-letter word, and the happy ending a hoax. Then they made Prince Charming the villain, thus elevating the Big Bad Wolf. The Wolf, I'm sure, was happy to be the new hot item. He didn't have to respect the ladies he snacked on. All he had to do was be a Wolf.


We flipped the fairy tale on its ear, and I contend we set it right. We need to bring back the romance. We need to teach our girls to demand respect, love, and loyalty from relationships...and let them know it's all right to seek out the princes.


Or when the call of the wild wolf is too much to ignore, we make it clear- the only way to collar that hungry carnivore is to make him heel. No gal ever raised a guy's standards by lowering here. The best way to get respect is to demand it.


So, I say- let's put the love back in the tail tale!




The Blurb:

Jo Leigh Harper comes from a long line of trouble-making, white trash stock.
Tanner Coulter comes from a longer line of wealth-creating, blue blood stock.
Jo graduated college top of her class, moving toward a future full of possibilities.
Tanner dropped out of college, trading a law degree for drinking games and one night stands.

A family crisis throws the rich party boy and the poor genius girl together. The attraction is immediate, though neither one is a heart-in-the-sand-drawing believer in true love. But as the summer sun heats up along the shores of the Outer Banks, so does the connection between them. Maybe, just maybe, they can win at love by defying reason.

 
Author Bio:


Elizabeth is a multi-published author of books for people who are believers in happily-ever- after, true love, and stories with a bit of fun and twists with their plots. The mother of four young men, she tackles laundry daily and is the keeper of the kitchen. She lives along the shores of the Ohio River in West Virginia, but dreams daily of the beach. 

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117 comments:

  1. This sounds like a fantastic book...I love her take on romance.. she's so right when she says we need our girls to raise their standards and not lower them for any man... There are princes out there and besides I tell both my daughters that they are princesses as all girls/women are <3

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    1. She is absolutely right about that. If you settle for less, you settle for a lifetime of unhappiness.

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    2. I couldn't agree more Launna! All girls should be treated like royalty. "Hey baby, you got a nice tush" should never work as a pick up line.

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  2. Well said, Elizabeth. Bring back the wholesome values and standards.

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    1. I don't know if I'm bringing back wholesome...but I do believe we need to have standards!

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  3. Hi, Stephanie. Hi, Elizabeth...

    You are so right.... When I was growing up my mother couldn't stress, "respect a girl" enough.... Young women today need to know that not all boys just want one thing... Hormones are raging, but I still believe our brains can win out over sexual urges.

    All the best with your newest book, Elizabeth! I'm sure it will be a winner!

    Thanks for featuring, Elizabeth today, Stephanie...

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    1. I think deep down, men are looking for what women are. That other stuff is still there, but you're looking for someone who wins your mind (and your heart!).

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    2. Thanks Michael. You had a wise mom :)

      And girls need to step it up too. You are right- there are wonderful, respectful guys out there. Girls need to bring them out of the friend zone.

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  4. I love these types of romances, where clearly the backgrounds don't mesh but love seems to find a way!

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    1. I've only read one so far, but it made me want to read more of her work.

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    2. They definitely come from different backgrounds! As Lee McKenzie pointed out in her review, I do like a Cinderella story!

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  5. Great post, Elizabeth. I agree that a book that shows good values can be a great way to set an example for the young.

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    1. It definitely can. I was reading romance when I was a teen.

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    2. I started reading romances as a teen too. Believing in true love never did me any harm.

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  6. Well said, Elizabeth. I'm not much of a fan of MTV and the values they instill these days. I miss actual music videos, but I'm an 80s child. So old-fashioned.

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    1. I can't remember the last time I watched anything on MTV.

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    2. I miss the videos too (also an 80's child!). I will admit, I watch MTV with my kids, but they get the constant lectures during the shows of how those behaviors are going to be regrets one day.

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  7. That is one very helpful analogy. Suddenly it dawned on me what I've been missing trying to figure out today's teens. Thank you very much. As the aunt to nine nieces, I'm thinking, each could use a copy of your book, Elizabeth (wow).

    Thank you, Stephanie - this was needed! (smile)

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    1. You're welcome, Dixie...and thanks to Elizabeth!!!

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    2. I'm an aunt too! I have four sons and people always tell me I need a daughter, but I don't need a daughter- I have nieces! Nieces rock. (And nephews too, of course- I have them too.)

      Wow, 9 books? As much as I like to make a sale, if I was you, I'd get one and pass it around ;)

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  8. I like what Alex said in his comment; I couldn't agree more! I think it would be a great book for a mother and daughter of that age group (young teen) to read together and discuss. Could open up lots of great new avenues of topics that need addressing. Good luck Elizabeth with the book!

    betty

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    1. I think that's true! There are a lot of tween/teen books, but romance seems to be getting out of the loop a little. We need the sweet, hopeful romances...realism is great, but you also need a little idealism mixed in.

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    2. One of the reasons I write for the mainstream market is because I do believe there needs to be a dose of realism, but like Stephanie said, I like to add some idealism too. I still remember my big brother's dating lecture- men won't offer to respect you. You will have to demand it.

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  9. You go Liz! Show that wolf who is boss. Romance is alive and well. This interview was fun to read.

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    1. That's right. If you have to have a pet wolf, better get him a leash!

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  10. Female self-respect seems to be at an all-time low in society. Demanding respect, love and loyalty has never been more important.

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    1. I think we've made great strides in gaining the respect of society as a whole--now women just need to learn to give themselves that same respect.

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  11. Sounds like the type of romance book I would like - where the women are more than handmaidens waiting around for life to happen and meekly accepting whatever comes their way. I have full confidence in my daughter's future. At 10 YOA, she squared off on a butcher (by profession) who joked about chopping up her stuffed animal. ;)

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    1. That's the kind of heroine I always liked when I read/wrote romance. Your daughter sounds amazing!

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    2. High fives to your daughter! Girls need to be raised with a bit of brass.

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  12. Couldn't agree more!! Great post from Elizabeth! Sounds like we can benefit from books like yours!

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    1. I agree--Elizabeth writes a great guest post! Thank you, Beth Ellyn.

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  13. we all need romance and happily ever after. :)

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  14. Sounds like a great read.

    Have a fabulous day. ☺

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  15. Agreed, everything is so dark and dreary and basically tells all that love is just a booty call lol

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    1. There are a lot of stories like that out there. Honestly? I might make more money with booty call tales.

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  16. Thanks for having me over Stephanie! And for all the kind words. You're a sweetheart!

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  17. Great post, Stephanie! I read another of Elizabeth's interviews on Alex's blog and vacated the planet earth and all of its chores, daily irritations and general 'bog me down' things. It was only for a while as Elizabeth beckoned me back :) Thanks for making me laugh Elizabeth. I bet you'd also be great at comedy. All the best to you both!

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    1. Anything that allows you to escape for a few minutes is a good thing!

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    2. Thanks Nicola! I've tried to write comedy, but then I'm suddenly unfunny. But I like to think some humor makes it into each book. Being a smart alleck is just natural to me.

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  18. Great guest post, Elizabeth! I agree, bring back the romance!! And I too love Elizabeth's writing and her novels! :)

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    1. I do miss reading romance...it's all kids' books these days!

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    2. Thanks Kristin!

      Finding time to read is tough.:(

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  19. Seconded! Let's do it. I'm totally with you too in the subtraction of romance from "love." They shouldn't be saying, "I love you." They're actually saying, "I lust you!" =)

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    1. I agree! I'm not one of the people lining up for "50 Shades" tickets, for sure.

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  20. First thing, the cover is eye catching. Blurb sounds wonderful and great interview. Congratulations Elizabeth!

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  21. HI Stefanie and Elizabeth! I really agree with your point about demanding respect. We have to value ourselves enough to make sure that people who don't, don't need to be a part of our lives.
    Sounds like you have a very busy life Elizabeth! It was fun to meet you :)
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  22. "The best way to get respect is to demand it." Absolutely. Great post. I hope a lot of young women read it. Thanks, Stefanie and Elizabeth. Congratulations on your latest book, Elizabeth.

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  23. I always said the moment I realized I was old was the moment I couldn't stand MTV anymore. And the reason I couldn't stand it was because I realized how fake that portrayal of love actually is. And that's pretty much all you see on MTV. So maybe I should say the moment I realized I had matured was when I realized MTV isn't an accurate portrayal of real relationships.

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    1. I think MTV has changed, too...so it's hard to know if we've just gotten old or they've just gotten worse! Maybe a combination of both.

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    2. You didn't get old Kelly, you got wise.

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  24. Love this! There's nothing wrong with the Big Bad Wolf for a night, but a prince is better (probably richer too).

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    1. I always tended to shy away from Big Bad Wolves. My first quasi-boyfriend (at 15) was a player...once I identified the type of guy who manipulates, I ran from guys who came on too "romantic" like they had the plague!

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    2. And as long as you're good with one night. I pity the girls who think one night with the wolf will turn him into a lap dog.

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  25. MTV isn't what it used to be. Of course that's not saying anything about your book Elizabeth! :)

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    1. I, of course, think of MTV's golden era as the 80s, when it was just music videos. I think younger generations are thinking of it as maybe the 90s, when reality TV was new?

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    2. It did use to be better. It just keeps getting trashier and trashier.

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  26. MTV scares me these days! And I totally agree young folks should read your books over that scary stuff. I just finished your second Coulter book, Elizabeth, and I loved Mollie. She's what girls should aspire to be. :)

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    1. I don't think I've even tried to watch MTV in so long, I'm not sure what's on there anymore.

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    2. I loved Mollie too. If I had a daughter, I'd want Mollie.

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  27. Ah yes, MTV. The starter of many ills.

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    1. And children watch it! Scary....

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    2. It's a train wreck on the small screen.

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  28. So wonderful to see Elizabeth here! She brought up a great point about MTV. Teens today see a lot! Wishing Elizabeth the best of luck. Her latest book sounds great! :)
    ~Jess

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    1. Teens today are spending far too much time Keeping Up with the Kardashians. I can't even imagine what that's doing to their minds!

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  29. I like Elizabeth's take on how we have turned fairy tales on their head and made the hero out of the wolf! Interesting idea and I think she might be on to something.

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    1. Thanks Sage...and ahhh Stephanie, don't make me blush!

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  30. I agree with you on the decline of happily-ever-after. Take Disney animated films, nowadays. Tough girls, they're starting to show, don't need romance. True, not everyone needs to be married off but they're teaching girls to equate strong with single. Why can't we teach our girls to be strong heroines, to be partners to just-as-strong heroes?

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    1. Good point. A good relationship, a healthy relationship is a partnership.

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  31. Good call, people aren't looking for "romance" in the old sense anymore.

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  32. Wonderful post. I have noticed the lowering of standards and respect. When I talk with young people it's appalling how many of them look up to celebrities and reality shows as their guide to what romance is.

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    1. I cringe when I see a girl act flattered over an obvious slur, but I see it all the time. It's like the new culture tells them that any attention is good.

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  33. Fabulous post, Elizabeth and so spot on... it's such a shame that all MTV ever shows is videos with half-naked women dancing around the 'wolf'. It really pisses me off and I don't even have any kids!

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  34. I loved her take on the MTV generation. What have they not seen already? Great review and interview. Thanks.

    Greetings from London.

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    THANK YOU for saying that, Elizabeth. I have a granddaughter, and I'm really wondering where all this media driven "reality" is going. I don't think it's going anywhere good.

    Love this!

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    1. My pleasure Cherdo. I grew up with big brothers who "translated" guys for me. And as the mom of all guys- they're good boys, but trust me, if it's all hanging out- they'll pay attention, and it's not coming from a place of respect.

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  36. Great post! I completely agree that a loss of respect, love, ad equality has really made society a lousy place for most girls. Good luck, Elizabeth!

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    1. Thanks Meradeth! It's like we come two steps forward and one back. Sigh.

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  37. This is an awesome post, and I agree with what you've said. It's a shame that love and romance have gotten so warped in recent times, to the point where some girls even expect to be mistreated by their "bad boy" boyfriends. There are princes out there!

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    1. Amen to that! I haven't read any, but I've heard talk that there are even YA books that glorify abuse. I hope that's not true.

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  38. Great post! It's sad the respect and real love have pretty much gone out the door.

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    1. I've told my kids to not even use the word until they understand it. It's more than a means to an end.

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  39. Great post! It's sad the respect and real love have pretty much gone out the door.

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  40. I love what you said Elizabeth. With all the videos of T & A I wonder how much women are demanding respect. I almost feel we are going backwards with the big booty's and ta-ta's

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  41. I watched MTV when I was younger, but not anymore. I can't stand the things they have on MTV now. Yikes! I wouldn't want my teens to watch it.

    I miss good old-fashioned romance!

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    1. My cable company dropped the channel, so now I don't have a clue what's on there and I haven't really missed it.

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  42. I watched MTV when I was younger, but not anymore. I can't stand the things they have on MTV now. Yikes! I wouldn't want my teens to watch it.

    I miss good old-fashioned romance!

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  43. Elizabeth, Well Said!!!! Much success with Defying Reason!!

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  44. I'll have to check this book out. After reading this post and the comments, I'm definitely intrigued!! :)

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  45. Actually, I never thought about the NA genre in that way! I would agree that it would be very good for teenagers who watch MTV to read and to gather a different sense of what intimate relationships can be about. As for me, I don't read too much NA because I think it is a bit graphic for my age range. But then again, I am not one of those MTV watchers. Good guest post ^.^

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