I Ain't Saying She's a Gold-Digger

I once dated a guy who was unemployed. He had no job. He had no money. His car broke down and he had no way to get to me.

At that time, he was the most ambitious man I'd ever dated.

Obviously, I'm not a very good gold-digger. But like every woman I'm attracted to a man with a strong work ethic. More important than that, though, is that he have ambition. That unemployed guy had ambition. He didn't have a job, but he had a dream...a dream that he pursued every day, whether he had a full-time job or not.

I personally have never understood the "gold-digger" thing myself. In my world, you marry for one reason and one reason only: love. Life is short...far too short to spend with someone who makes you miserable. So, why is it, every time you see an incredibly wealthy, successful man, his wife often looks like this:

Are some women possibly so shallow that they would force themselves to be with a man they aren't attracted to -- that they might even be repulsed by -- just to be able to buy Coco Chanel baby clothes for their children? Are such women truly out there?

I'm not going to deny that women exist who will use a man. But I am going to propose that some women actually find Donald Trump sexy. (I find him pompous and arrogant and disgusting, but I'm weird that way!) Power, to a woman, is sexy. I remember having an attraction to a man I met at a work conference once. Seeing him standing in front of that crowd, speaking with such professionalism and intelligence, made me absolutely crazy about him. To me, there's nothing sexier than a man with a good work ethic and drive and ambition. But that has absolutely nothing to do with wealth. It is character and integrity.

Is it possible that a stunningly beautiful woman could be so drawn to a man's power she completely overlooks his physical appearance:

Maybe, since women do tend to be more emotional than physical, she simply fell in love with his character and integrity rather than his physique?

Maybe that 22-year-old swimsuit model isn't quite the gold-digger you think she is. Maybe she's just deep enough to see past the man's exterior, to the hard-working, ambitious person he is. Maybe THAT is who she fell in love with.